10/5/2019 0 Comments The Hug Heard Around the WorldI have a few close friends who may disagree with this post/viewpoint. To them or anyone else who reads know this, I believe I can disagree with you and still love you. My really close friends already get this and to anyone else, I'm sure that I won't love you any less nor will I miss you if you go as a result. This is my opinion as many of you have stated yours. Many of us have followed the case. A female white police officer shoots a young black man in his apartment claiming that she believed it was her own. We know that's a load of crap. We also know that though we were relieved to actually get a conviction this time, the 10 year sentence was a slap in the face. I'm not here to debate whether justice was served or not. If you want to debate that, do it on your own platform because I will not go back and forth with you on that. Especially when THIS post is to discuss the response to this young mans brother hugging the woman who pulled the trigger. You are not in his shoes. I don't care if you have lost a loved one to violence, you are STILL not in his shoes. You don't know how many nights he lay awake at night grieving and agonizing over the lpss of his brother. You don't know if or how intensely holding hatred toward this woman was slowly killing him. His choice to forgive her and release her; to show compassion when many would argue she didn't deserve it, was just that HIS CHOICE. Keep all of your "He's brainwashed" and "Christians are always turning the other cheek" to yourself. Let that young man be at peace with HIS CHOICE. I have been on the end of forgiving someone who has completely violated me before and no, they weren't brought to justice; it didn't even get to trial. I chose that route because I spent over a decade in bondage to that pain and resentment. I was a slave to the bitterness and I and my family suffered as a result. I benefitted from that choice (MY choice) because I was able to open my eyes and heart to receive the love of God. If that means you think I have a slave mentality I honestly don't care and I pray this young man doesn't either. I'm not a slave of God's, I'm His daughter. I'd rather have people THINK I'm a slave and WALK as His daughter than to truly be a slave to bitterness. Holding grudges saying you will never forgive someone isn't helping you. It isn't "sticking it to them" or proving a point. Most of them don't even care that you've removed yourself from their lives. When you forgive someone it does not mean you excuse their behavior or that you accept what they did. It also does not mean that they will not be brought to justice just because justice wasn't enacted the way you thought it should be. Forgiveness doesn't even mean that you shouldn't continue to stand for and seek adequate justice. It just means you have released the desire to retaliate thus exacerbating the issue. This young man's own sister asked for his method to freeing himself to be respected. Just because you wouldn't have done it doesn't mean you attack him. Newsflash, you didn't have to make the choice to do it in this scenario. If you're ever faced with the choice, and I really hope you aren't, choose as YOU wish to. I will choose forgiveness, but I also won't and can't condemn you if you never do. Categories
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